So we got the psych evaluations on the two kids that we were looking in to adopting. We weren't prepared for what we read. They came from an abusive environment and were so affected by it that they may have issues that will never be remedied. Neither of them are very verbal and have major behavior problems. The evaluations were enough to bring me to tears.
We knew that this kind of thing may exist, but this is the first time we've seen it. We have decided that we would probably not be a good fit for these boys. We are green parents and don't know how to deal with situations that severe. Yes, we could learn, but I could see this kind of thing causing a riff between the two of us, which isn't good for anyone.
We feel horrible having to say no. These boys are in their situation through no fault of their own and I really wish I could help. We're just not there yet. We couldn't help but think about their future. They will likely stay in the foster system until they're 18. After that, who knows what the future holds for them. I can't help but wonder if a lot of the people that end up on a bad path have to start out their lives this way. They don't really stand a chance.
So sad to read :(
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